I love working from home. I have my comfy slippers. I have my instant Caffe Dvita Premium Cappuccino from Costco. I set a schedule that suits me. I make cakes.
I used to be out of the house every single day, at the gym, or going salsa dancing or at a job outside of the home, or taking classes at the university or in my chaffuerial role during my super active mom years.
But then something happened.
I had the urge to slow down.
I finished getting my degree. My children turned into adults. I started feeling stressed while trying to catch the right bus so that I could catch the right BART train so that I could get into my cubicle at the right starting time. I had a job doing something that didn’t feel right for me. The urge to go dancing all the time ended.
Which one of these women is the real me? Is it the extroverted woman with the large, in-person community or is it the introspective woman with a virtual online community, which is where I hang out most of the time now?
I am both of these women.
At each phase of my life, it felt right to be where I was.
I only started to feel uncomfortable when I knew that the way that I was currently living was not working for me anymore. It was time to make changes. Sure, the transitions were a bit rough but once I went through them and things settled down again it was worth it. And what if it ends up that it is not as good as I thought it would be, guess what? Time to make adjustments.
Either you move, or the things around you have to move. Not being comfortable in your living space, which is where ever you are spending most of your time, physically, mentally or emotionally, can be a signal that it is time to move. Things will feel stagnant and/or yucky unless things change.
So, I don’t know how long I will embrace this period of nesting but for now it suits me perfectly. I still go dancing (occasionally) but it doesn’t have that sense of urgency. Along with working at home, I also work outside of the home, but now it is only two half-days a week, in a job I love. I embraced the fact that I am a life-long learner and I will always be in some kind of classroom setting. And I occasionally drive my kids around, but not so much.
Life is good.